Things will be better for 2012

[hondachicc]

I am so totally determined to get out the funk I have been in for over a year now.....

I am seeing 2012 as the TURNAROUND year for me!!!!!!!!!!!!

As I have watched my DD go downhill and just get worse and worse, I found myself this past year doing the unthinkable...taking her children from her. Let's just say SHE WAS NOT THRILLED WITH ME. I have now had them for 4 and half months....it has been a HUGE HUGE adjustment, and not easy ones. Mike and I keep saying we aren't cut out for this....but the reality is....we are...we just need to dig down deep.

For those of you who don't know...the first BIG CHANGE in 2012 is my DH is retiring and we will be staying home together....this is not BAD NEWS :bounce: HAHA!!! I love having him around...he has been totally miserable in his job for the past three years and after 36 and half years, he has more than earned the time to leave!! So.............we have LOTS OF CHANGES for us this coming year....we have been talking A LOT this past week while he has been off, and we have decided we are going to see this journey with our sweet little grandchildren as a true blessing and an OPPORTUNITY to make a difference for them that they would have never had with my DD or their father. It will not be easy (both children are ADHD) but we will do our best to live up to this challenge and hopefully we will reap huge rewards by seeing them turn into two beautiful adults ready to face anything in the world!!!!!!!!!!!! A SECOND CHANCE, IF YOU WILL!!!!

Thanks for listening to my babbling...but I hope this all means I will be back to spending more time with all my friends here at the O as well...I have not been around like I used to be... pppppsssstttt...with Mike at home..I can sneak off for a while each day and leave him in charge!! :bounce:

MUCH LOVE TO YOU ALL AND HERE IS TO A FANTASTIC 2012!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[yvonnahenna]

Oh wauw Linda! That is such a difficult but such a GOOD decision to take your grandchildren. It must hurt you to see your own daughter going downhill In stead of uphill. I have lots of respect for people who take such a big decision!

Good thing your husband is retiring! So you both can take care of your grandchildren and do an awesome job!

 

[CookingMyLife]

You'll both be given the strength and enthusiasm to work through the days ahead Linda. Looking at it from your current perspective is the way to go...a blessing to keep you two young! I would not be surprised to see if those children become less ADHD as their time with two calm adults continues. You're giving them a new normal. Yeah!

Love to you both as you walk this new road. Break the cycle!! and keep sharing your journey with us! Major Hugs! :hug:

 

[petey111]

I love you my friend.

 

[dwsewbiz]

You've taken on quite a challenge and made some difficult decisions...blessings to you my friend, I will keep your family in my prayers.

 

[LSlycord]

Oh Linda...so much in store for 2012! I wish you the very best...and believe that you will be incredibly blessed by this decision!

 

[mrstoa]

My sweet, dear friend you are blessed in so many ways, with a loving heart filled with generosity and caring.
You, your DH and your children will be in my nightly prayers.
You will receive the strength you need to fulfill your challenges as parents. I know this was not an easy path to take but I believe it was truly meant to be.
2012 is the beginning of a new and precious life for those two sweet babies!
Lotsa luv and hugs

 

[Madi]

Hope 2012 will be a great one for you Linda!!

 

[LaurieW]

Linda- you can do it- I love your new siggy!

 

[cellomom]

Ohhhhh NanaL, our dear friend and pastor said today that confession doesn't come after belief, but they walk hand in hand. This post is a perfect example of this!! and I soooo see you having a breakthrough year this year! I know I would adore having my darling mr gorgeous at home 24/7!!! And you will be soooo blessed!! and your daughter will be blessed, too!!

and girl, you are soooo a blessing to me, too!! Thanks for your wonderful example and your positive attitude, hun!! love you!

 

[donnagoar]

Linda, I hope 2012 is a year of wonderful things for you and your family. You certainly are an amazing inspiration. Wishing you good stuff in 2012!!
Donna

 

[frani_54]

A New Year, a new beginning a chance to make this your best year EVER. I know the kids are definately better off with you and have a wonderful future ahead of them.

 

[faerywings]

Nana, you are the strongest woman I know. And the second most positive. No one will *ever* beat Sally for that title ound:

I can only say ditto to what Jacqueline said.... and Sara too.

I love you my friend.....

 

[whatnext]

bless you, Linda. you're an angel on earth. hope 2012 is golden for all of you.

 

[hondachicc]

I seriously have tears reading your comments ladies!!! I feel very blessed just by being here with all of you!!!!

Thank you all for the support and encouragment!!! It means so much!!!!

Knowing that some of your own issues, and you are still here to cheer me on...WOW!!! You are all fantastic!!!!!! :hug:

 

[clarabear]

Hey Nana!!

You know I have always been one of your biggest supporters and am always here for you. I know this year will be better for you because instead of trying to figure out what is going on you can now get settled and find your new normal routine. I am so grateful that you guys are in a place where DH can now stay home with you so that you can tackle your new challenges and joys together. I hope you are able to create stronger bonds with your grandkids and eventually your daughter. Maybe T will actually one day try and be better. But until that day if it ever happens those children have two amazing grandparents to love and adore them and give them lots of normalcy. YOu are amazing to see the needs of those children over trying to avoid the back lash of upsetting your daughter. That is a hard choice for every parent/grandparent put in that position. Sending lots of hugs and prayers your way!!

 

[Bush Girl]

Yeah, Nana - kicking 2011 in the butt as it leaves!! Good onya, girl. :rockon:

And here's to 2012 being so much better because you (and your DH) are in the driving seat this year. :thumb: I think you are amazing and just know that you'll all pull through this for a better family future. Hugs to you, Linda. ::grouphug

 

[Ellen]

oh Linda I'm so glad to hear your rollercoaster is coming to a standstill at last.
I know it won't be easy starting all over again with little ones but know you can do it , good that dh is home too to share the load.
Your love for them ( and theirs for you) and your great sense of humor will help you find your way.
and if it gets too much just holler at us.:horn:

 

[wombat146]

Well you know my thoughts my sweet friend!! I think you are an angel on earth as well, lots of love and very positive thoughts for the new year ahead soul sista!!!!!!!!! xx

 

[suezeeq12]

Oh Nana I love you and those babies couldn't be with better people. You have fought a long fight and for a good reason. Enjoy them and Mike too It's not always easy but it's always worth it!!

xoxo

 

[Michael]

Linda, YOU. MAKE. A. DIFFERENCE.

In the best ways possible, in every life you touch -- even virtual connections!!!

You can't help but inspire, with your creativity, and your life. Your courage, determination, and kindness will always stick with me.

I admire you saying "yes" to the call. Please let us know how we can support you!

Love to you and your family!!!

 

[hondachicc]

Thank you all so much, again!!! The support from you gals is a huge factor in helping me get through!!!!

 

[yvonnahenna]

:hug:

 

[snowdropz]

I wish you all the best for the New Year. Not easy taking away the children from their mother but if they are better off with you, then that's the way to go. You could tell your DD that you are giving her time to get on the mend without worrying about her children. She should be thankful that they have a stable & loving environment to live in.