NSBR Those that pray

[Merkee]

Can I just say that I love Oscraps and all it's members? You all made me feel so loved and supported. Thank you for the prayers and good thoughts. It feels good to know that you are there and that many of you have been in my footsteps. The journey isn't as scary now.

We found a place that we can be content with. It is only 5-10 minutes from my house. It appears clean, well run and full of people like my dad. I was happy with all the answers to my questions about the facility. They do also take medi-cal which is something that we would eventually need. We are getting all the paperwork in order just in case we admit him.

However, by mutual decision, we just can't place my father yet. We talked it over and feel that maybe we panicked when my dad lost his mobility and that we can do this a little longer. With the hospital bed and some supplies, caring for my father should be doable. Now that he is wheelchair bound, he can actually get in less trouble than he could before. Plus we are ramping up and hiring more caregiving services to give me more respite. My father would get much more attention at home than he would in the hallways of the facility.

Hugs,

 

[VickiStegall]

that's good news. I wish you all the best and please remember to take care of yourself as well!

 

[yvonnahenna]

Good to hear you've found a nice place!

 

[Dumpty]

Good to know you have a good place to fall back on when you'll need it.
I hope and pray you can go on with your current decision for a while. I'm sure you'll all benefit from it in one way on another.
And like Vicki said : don't forget to take care of yourself in the process.

xoxo

 

[whatnext]

has anyone ever told you what a GOOD daughter you are? well, you are. your heart does you credit.

 

[hondachicc]

I have told her before...she definitely has crowns in heaven waiting for her!!

I am happy you are satisfied with this place!!! now you know you have somewhere to go when it just gets to be too rough for you. I know that is one burden off your back!!


:hug:

 

[Ellen]

oh that's good that you found something you are happy with and close by so it doesn't become a drain on the energy travelling to and from .
Is there a waiting list there? and can you go and visit the home with him , have a coffee may be he knows some people there?
So who is going to do the lifting now - watch that back of yours besides everything else. Glad you're feeling happier now and can relax a bit :bathbaby:

 

[LSlycord]

Oh Merkee...so glad for this bit of good news! I know that it will warm your heart to be able to stay with him a bit longer!

 

[ViVre]

Happy to hear that you've found a place nearby. And I hope you can endure the waiting time. Prayers send to you!

 

[Dady]

Oh Merkee, I am glad to read the good news ❤

 

[wombat146]

sounds like you have a plan in place sweetie!! lots of hugs and positive thoughts coming your way from downunder............. remember to take care of you though!! xx

 

[LaurieW]

Sounds like a plan- do they offer respite so he could go for a few days and then return home? Or would that be too stressful for him? Just a thought. Keep yourself safe (your back) and take care of you!

 

[Merkee]

oh that's good that you found something you are happy with and close by so it doesn't become a drain on the energy travelling to and from .
Is there a waiting list there? and can you go and visit the home with him , have a coffee may be he knows some people there?
So who is going to do the lifting now - watch that back of yours besides everything else. Glad you're feeling happier now and can relax a bit :bathbaby:

Ellen, there is a small waiting list. But I was told that there is usually an opening within a couple weeks.

As to the lifting, I think I will be okay. For starters, I shouldn't have tried to lift him. I now do what I call manipulate him. His legs still move, he just forgot how to walk. So I can slowly get his legs turned when transferring from wheelchair to bed and back. I also discovered that our wheelchair sides come off which make transferring easier, he just kind of slides on and off the wheelchair to the bed. It's definitely a slow process but it works. To sit anywhere else, he just doesn't unless there is another adult there to help me.

 

[Merkee]

Sounds like a plan- do they offer respite so he could go for a few days and then return home? Or would that be too stressful for him? Just a thought. Keep yourself safe (your back) and take care of you!

Laurie, you know, I didn't think to ask. I probably wouldn't send him anywhere just because the change at this stage would be very stressful for him. I do have a caregiver that comes a few days a week for 4 hours each day that gives me a mini respite. Plus I just added a full day to her schedule. She gives me wonderful peace of mind. She cared for my dad a few years ago when he was very ill. She is very good with him.

 

[Ellen]

Ellen, there is a small waiting list. But I was told that there is usually an opening within a couple weeks.

As to the lifting, I think I will be okay. For starters, I shouldn't have tried to lift him. I now do what I call manipulate him. His legs still move, he just forgot how to walk. So I can slowly get his legs turned when transferring from wheelchair to bed and back. I also discovered that our wheelchair sides come off which make transferring easier, he just kind of slides on and off the wheelchair to the bed. It's definitely a slow process but it works. To sit anywhere else, he just doesn't unless there is another adult there to help me.

if need be you could always go to that home and ask you to demonstrate how to move someone from a bed to a wheelchair and vv. A shame you had to work that out yourself that the sides of the wheelchair comes off. It's little things that make life so much easier.