Digi Designz
Well-Known Member
Hiya O-ladies!
so here is my question:
I have an 8 year old son, who is very sweet and caring. He also has a defiant, disrespectful streak as well. We have daily "lists" that he is supposed to do in the morning, afterschool, and before bed as well as chores. Some days he has no problem with doing others is like a fight till the bitter end. When I tell him its time to do it he will reply with "no I dont have to" or "im not doing it" he constantly tells me how mean I am and how I always tell him what to do. I try and keep my cool, and most times I can but a peron can only take so much. this morning he was supposed to take out the garbage as part of his chores (whick btw he gets 5$ a week for allowance) he grabbed the bag and said it was to heavy asking for help, I told him he was strong and he could do it himself, he then proceeded to get really mad and threw the bag down and it busted open, I went inside and got another bag picked up all the garbage and told him to take it to the curb. he then proceeded to carry it to the curb where he threw it down and it busted open again ( the very cold weather probly had something to do with this but still!) at that point I lost it and stated yelling at him! I didnt know what else to do, he says its my fault and then when he cries and gets upset he tells me that I "made" him do it. I try and explaint that everyone has a choice about thier actions and emotions but he insists that no its my faulth!
I feel so bad and like an aweful parent. I dont know waht to do. its supposed to be "date" night tonight but after this morning there is no way I am taking him to do anything fun. I will be taking away all electronics for 2 days as well.
What do you do for dicipline with your kids, and what do you think I should do. I know he sounds like a little devil from what I have said, but most of the time he is a real sweet heart, he just gets into these fits...and I have a hard time keeping my cool
anyways thanks in advance
so here is my question:
I have an 8 year old son, who is very sweet and caring. He also has a defiant, disrespectful streak as well. We have daily "lists" that he is supposed to do in the morning, afterschool, and before bed as well as chores. Some days he has no problem with doing others is like a fight till the bitter end. When I tell him its time to do it he will reply with "no I dont have to" or "im not doing it" he constantly tells me how mean I am and how I always tell him what to do. I try and keep my cool, and most times I can but a peron can only take so much. this morning he was supposed to take out the garbage as part of his chores (whick btw he gets 5$ a week for allowance) he grabbed the bag and said it was to heavy asking for help, I told him he was strong and he could do it himself, he then proceeded to get really mad and threw the bag down and it busted open, I went inside and got another bag picked up all the garbage and told him to take it to the curb. he then proceeded to carry it to the curb where he threw it down and it busted open again ( the very cold weather probly had something to do with this but still!) at that point I lost it and stated yelling at him! I didnt know what else to do, he says its my fault and then when he cries and gets upset he tells me that I "made" him do it. I try and explaint that everyone has a choice about thier actions and emotions but he insists that no its my faulth!
I feel so bad and like an aweful parent. I dont know waht to do. its supposed to be "date" night tonight but after this morning there is no way I am taking him to do anything fun. I will be taking away all electronics for 2 days as well.
What do you do for dicipline with your kids, and what do you think I should do. I know he sounds like a little devil from what I have said, but most of the time he is a real sweet heart, he just gets into these fits...and I have a hard time keeping my cool
anyways thanks in advance