Introvert? Extrovert? or Middle?

[Danesa]

Are you an introvert, extrovert or somewhere in the middle?

I used to be an extrovert, but since I moved, alone, to another state, after a nasty divorce, I have become more of an introvert. I guess being burned really made me become quite choosey in having fewer friends and sharing less. Kind of sad, too, since I used to be the life of any party. (Even before drinks. haha)

 

[taxed4ever]

I think I am somewhere in the middle. I do love my time alone in my home, but I also love to have fun with family and friends, sometimes I am quiet and just listen, but then I can also be the life of the party when I want to be.

 

[felis]

Denise, I wish you to find comfort and happiness at this new level at your life! Here we have saying ''have fewer friends, but quality''! I'm surrounded by many unsuccessful, or even worse - miserable marriages. This happens too often at nowadays. Don't allow on bad experience to ruin your party personality! :hug:

About me: introvert and dreamer, Even quirky. I'm always been that kind.
My work with shelter animals fast made me misanthrope.
Then aging, my mom's upbringing and the #MeToo movement convinced me that dates are dangerous wasting of time.
My friends now are moved in other towns and even countries (looking for better income), so we can't meet often, but I found I don't actually miss them too.

 

[VickiStegall]

Denise I think sometimes when we go through health struggles we tend to pull in a bit and re-evaluate everything and everyone to see if someone/thing is ADDING to our life or taking away from it. I think its normal and OK, even healthy to be choosy!


I used to be far more extroverted than I am now. But, I think that was more searching for something outside of myself. Now I'm more content to just be.

 

[faerywings]

I recently read an article about extroverted introverts and that is me!

These resonate with me the most:

5. We’re open to meeting your other friends. Just let us know ahead of time that we’ll be meeting new people so we can mentally prepare ourselves to socialize.

We’re not closed off to meeting new people, it’s just a very exhausting thing to do. So we literally have to prepare ourselves to socialize. We have to get into the mindset of, “Okay, I’m going to be talking a lot.”


8. We’ll happily chat up your parents/friends/girlfriend/boyfriend/boss/etc., but once it’s over, we require silence.

After so much talking, we really need to recharge.


18. We don’t actually have a staple “group” of friends.

We often pick and choose one or two individuals from different social groups that make up our closest friends. But we make this handful of best friends our life and we’d do anything for them.

 

[faerywings]

I understand that re-evauation and I have done the same. Some of it was on my part- closing myself off a bit. Other friends dropped me because of my illness and financial situation made it hard to be a friend/social creature.
I have one very close BFF. Sister from another mother. I am also so very lucky to have a very close family. Aside from that, I typically don't miss the social scene. I miss the "opportunity" of having a social life but not the actual events. If that makes sense. LOL

 

[VickiStegall]

That sounds a lot like me, Chris! Extroverted Introvert. I like it.


And, yeah, that makes sense.

 

[faerywings]

I always surprise people when I tell that I am actually very shy. They have *no idea* how much it mentally costs me to be social in many situations.
The one thing that I miss about smoking is that having a cigarette/needing a lighter was always an easy way to make contact with other humans LOL

 

[VickiStegall]

So true, Chris!

 

[Danesa]

Thank you, ladies, for all your insight. I'm sorry I "disappeared" but my first grandchild was born, in Florida, and I HAD to be there for that special occasion. haha So now, I have finally arrived back to my quiet home. It's funny how this post really was at the appropriate time. I found myself using your thoughts to survive the drama I encountered while in Florida! We never know how words help us through circumstances, until it DOES. I've read each of your responses and each one touched & helped me in certain ways. Thank you for sharing yourselves with me! Ya'll are the best!!