well, I knew it was going to happen. All of my relaxation from Spa Day went out the window within in minutes of me waking up yesterday. :flypig:
I was so cranky all day. I got a lot done, but much of it was accompanied by huffing and puffing and sighs and grumbles.
It started out when I had to touch base with my mom about the "baby shower." Some of you know that my brother and SIL are in the process of adopting a baby. She is due Nov 22. My brother is keeping things very low key (almost obsessively!), but I can't really blame him. They were scammed by a birth mother last year and he's just very nervous that this b-mom could change her ind. On top of that, he is Old School Italian and my family doesn't do the "baby shower celebrations" until they baby is born. I had a baby shower for Scott, but the little old Italian relatives all gave me a check, no specific gifts.
Long story short- SIL'd friends are planning a shower for her on Dec 12. Yes, the baby is due right before T-day. The b-mom has 72 hours to change her mind, then the state takes 7-10 business days to finalize the paperwork before my brother can even leave the state to bring the baby home. There is a possibility that they won't even be back by Dec 12. Or even more likely, they might be home, but who wants to take a newborn out under those conditions?
When I was approached (not even my mom was consulted- and she is the sole grandmother), I said that i didn't think it was a good idea- that they would need time to relax, bond, get their feet ont he ground etc. I was told that the baby would "need things." WTH does a newborn baby need? Diapers, formula, and a crib. The big stuff can wait, right?
I suggested to wait until after the holidays when everyone can enjoy the party. "No, then it can't be a baby shower." WTH does that even mean? You can't welcome a baby if its over 6 weeks old??
The last thing that is annoying me is that I feel bad for my brother.
He has gotten little to no recognition that he is goign to be this baby's father. I suggested that we have a "couples party" so that he can be honored as well. No, they want it to be women only.
This is going to make me crazy. my mom feels the same as i do. My brother already said he doesn't want this to be in Dec, but it looks like it is going ahead anyway. My mom is really upset b/c my brother hasn't even given her the green light to tell any of the relatives. So they have no clue that my brother is going to be a father, but oh yeah, BTW, bring a gift....
whew! I needed to get that off my chest, didn't I?
So that kind of tinged my whole day. Then I was just tired and achy and felt completely overwhelmed by life.
I am have my :tea: and putting a smile on and sticking it with Crazy Glue. :becky:
:Thanks for listening!
I was so cranky all day. I got a lot done, but much of it was accompanied by huffing and puffing and sighs and grumbles.
It started out when I had to touch base with my mom about the "baby shower." Some of you know that my brother and SIL are in the process of adopting a baby. She is due Nov 22. My brother is keeping things very low key (almost obsessively!), but I can't really blame him. They were scammed by a birth mother last year and he's just very nervous that this b-mom could change her ind. On top of that, he is Old School Italian and my family doesn't do the "baby shower celebrations" until they baby is born. I had a baby shower for Scott, but the little old Italian relatives all gave me a check, no specific gifts.
Long story short- SIL'd friends are planning a shower for her on Dec 12. Yes, the baby is due right before T-day. The b-mom has 72 hours to change her mind, then the state takes 7-10 business days to finalize the paperwork before my brother can even leave the state to bring the baby home. There is a possibility that they won't even be back by Dec 12. Or even more likely, they might be home, but who wants to take a newborn out under those conditions?
When I was approached (not even my mom was consulted- and she is the sole grandmother), I said that i didn't think it was a good idea- that they would need time to relax, bond, get their feet ont he ground etc. I was told that the baby would "need things." WTH does a newborn baby need? Diapers, formula, and a crib. The big stuff can wait, right?
I suggested to wait until after the holidays when everyone can enjoy the party. "No, then it can't be a baby shower." WTH does that even mean? You can't welcome a baby if its over 6 weeks old??
The last thing that is annoying me is that I feel bad for my brother.
He has gotten little to no recognition that he is goign to be this baby's father. I suggested that we have a "couples party" so that he can be honored as well. No, they want it to be women only.
This is going to make me crazy. my mom feels the same as i do. My brother already said he doesn't want this to be in Dec, but it looks like it is going ahead anyway. My mom is really upset b/c my brother hasn't even given her the green light to tell any of the relatives. So they have no clue that my brother is going to be a father, but oh yeah, BTW, bring a gift....

whew! I needed to get that off my chest, didn't I?
So that kind of tinged my whole day. Then I was just tired and achy and felt completely overwhelmed by life.
I am have my :tea: and putting a smile on and sticking it with Crazy Glue. :becky:
:Thanks for listening!