Quick post for me ATM, running late and head is fuzzy. 
Happy Wednesday and love and hugs to all of you!
Happy Wednesday and love and hugs to all of you!
Oscraps
Daily Ooo's: Wednesday, April 4
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LSlycord
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Just lost a very long post...hope that isn't a sign of things to come today! Lots going on at the moment. Massive re-org at work...in all day planning meetings today. Found a new daycare and so the kids will be changing on Monday. And my uncle (Mom's only sibling) is in ICU and probably won't make it through the week. So visiting him a couple of times a day. We were always very close.
((hugs)) to all of you. Still having beautiful spring weather in the midwest. Hope that I can get a little scrapping time soon.
((hugs)) to all of you. Still having beautiful spring weather in the midwest. Hope that I can get a little scrapping time soon.
hondachicc
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Morning girls!!!
Off to grocery shop this morning....not my favorite chore...but MUST BE DONE!! I have my coupons ready to go..so hopefully I will save a little money...I am not a coupon freak...but I need to save where I can...so I have dedicated about an hour a week to the coupons to see if there are things I can save on....I know people who do it to the extent they get hundreds of $$ worth of groceries for $30-$50 ....but it takes them days...it's very HARD work....I can't concentrate that much on it!!!
Okay....better run...need to get ready so I can leave after Miss S eats her breakfast!!
:hug: and
Off to grocery shop this morning....not my favorite chore...but MUST BE DONE!! I have my coupons ready to go..so hopefully I will save a little money...I am not a coupon freak...but I need to save where I can...so I have dedicated about an hour a week to the coupons to see if there are things I can save on....I know people who do it to the extent they get hundreds of $$ worth of groceries for $30-$50 ....but it takes them days...it's very HARD work....I can't concentrate that much on it!!!
Okay....better run...need to get ready so I can leave after Miss S eats her breakfast!!
:hug: and
whatnext
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hi, everyone. just got my AnnaPosts done and up on the site, so time to start some housework. got through the day yesterday without springing a leak in my nose. hopefully today goes as well. trying to get the house ready for The Grandmen's visit next week!
Linda, boy, you're FAST! glad you got the kids out of that other daycare and away from the threatening, swearing weirdo in the playground.
NanaL, they're starting to clamp down on Extreme Couponers around where i live. i could NEVER take that much time with coupons. i rarely even use them. i am so sick of little pieces of paper littering my life. as it is, my kitchen counter looks like a paper dump. there's always some PAPER that you have to keep for some reason or to remind you of something.
have a splendid Wednesday, everyone!
phylis
Linda, boy, you're FAST! glad you got the kids out of that other daycare and away from the threatening, swearing weirdo in the playground.
NanaL, they're starting to clamp down on Extreme Couponers around where i live. i could NEVER take that much time with coupons. i rarely even use them. i am so sick of little pieces of paper littering my life. as it is, my kitchen counter looks like a paper dump. there's always some PAPER that you have to keep for some reason or to remind you of something.
have a splendid Wednesday, everyone!
phylis
Kiliki
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i almost started this thread at 3am.....but i didnt know if i was able to? LOL so i didnt
but i was up from 1am roughly to about 3am coughing like crazy....at 3am dear hubby (dh) finally got sick of me and told me to go gargle salt water or have some hot tea with honey...and since the gargling of the salt water would literally make me vomit....i went with having hot tea.....and then went to bed around 330 slept on and off cause dh was up all night from pain from his back on his computer watching videos of various things and i kept waking up cause of that.....UGH!!!!
but i was up from 1am roughly to about 3am coughing like crazy....at 3am dear hubby (dh) finally got sick of me and told me to go gargle salt water or have some hot tea with honey...and since the gargling of the salt water would literally make me vomit....i went with having hot tea.....and then went to bed around 330 slept on and off cause dh was up all night from pain from his back on his computer watching videos of various things and i kept waking up cause of that.....UGH!!!!
I am back for a few before i have to run out again. Thank goodness for the decent money because I am really starting to hate cleaning. Not that the money is making a dent in the bills, but heck, it is better than nothing!
Last night was-- weird..... for some reason, being at these events bring out every last bit of "Bad Mother" insecurities. I mean, I know I am a good mom when it comes to loving my kids, being there for them, that kind of stuff.
But when I am around other kids and parents who are "doing" stuff, amazing stuff, I feel like I have failed them in guiding them to be more active in the schools and arts and all that. For ex. I was watching the Indoor Color Guard perform last night and wow-- just wow. So talented and you can see the hard work they put it. What do my kids do when they come home? Sit on their computers. Goof off. Nothing..... I always thought I would have so much time to get them healthy and focus on that kind of stuff, and now all it is me trying to keep our collective heads above water- there is no talk/discussion/vision of the future for them.
It makes me sad and guilty and all of that other yuck-mom crap.
I wish I knew how to fix it, but at this point in their lives, I seem to mean less and less to them. Which hurts, which makes me then stuff that down and ignore it all. Head in the Sand Mom. Is that any better that Helicopter Moms? Probably not.
:violin:
Gah!!!! I HATE when I get in these moods. Good thing I am working so I can be alone for a bit, with my headphones on LOL
Tonight is All School Fair night, and I just finished making Panzanella (Tomato and Bread Salad) for her to bring for the International Food section of it.
Better get running to get something to eat before I leave, (Wo)man cannot live on Coffee Alone, however I wish I could
xoxoxo (and don't mind my crappy mood- I'll be better later one for sure!!!
Last night was-- weird..... for some reason, being at these events bring out every last bit of "Bad Mother" insecurities. I mean, I know I am a good mom when it comes to loving my kids, being there for them, that kind of stuff.
But when I am around other kids and parents who are "doing" stuff, amazing stuff, I feel like I have failed them in guiding them to be more active in the schools and arts and all that. For ex. I was watching the Indoor Color Guard perform last night and wow-- just wow. So talented and you can see the hard work they put it. What do my kids do when they come home? Sit on their computers. Goof off. Nothing..... I always thought I would have so much time to get them healthy and focus on that kind of stuff, and now all it is me trying to keep our collective heads above water- there is no talk/discussion/vision of the future for them.
It makes me sad and guilty and all of that other yuck-mom crap.
I wish I knew how to fix it, but at this point in their lives, I seem to mean less and less to them. Which hurts, which makes me then stuff that down and ignore it all. Head in the Sand Mom. Is that any better that Helicopter Moms? Probably not.
:violin:
Gah!!!! I HATE when I get in these moods. Good thing I am working so I can be alone for a bit, with my headphones on LOL
Tonight is All School Fair night, and I just finished making Panzanella (Tomato and Bread Salad) for her to bring for the International Food section of it.
Better get running to get something to eat before I leave, (Wo)man cannot live on Coffee Alone, however I wish I could
xoxoxo (and don't mind my crappy mood- I'll be better later one for sure!!!
whatnext
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Chris. i have told you in the past that you are My Hero. you do an amazing amount of stuff every day. and you do it with grace and humor. and you are making lemonade with the troubles that have been laid at your feet. you love your kids lots and lots. that's obvious. from my vantage point as a Really Old Lady, i gotta tell ya that as a parent, you can have less of an effect on your kids' lives than you think,as they grow up. really. i did all those things that you are feeling inadequate about not having done, and i don't think it made that much difference in the long run. eventually they grow away from you and make their own lives based on their worldview. the worldview that THEY have created. i thought i did everything right, and i'm now almost completely estranged from my daughter, who pulled something out of a bag of tricks i didn't even know she had and wrecked the family. so. what i'm trying to say is that kids aren't really yours to mold into something once they're beyond childhood. you can help them follow their interests and encourage certain behaviors, but you can't control as much as you think you can or might WISH you can. so. be kind to yourself. love is about all you can do, and you do that beautifully.
geez. was that TMI? :tape2:
geez. was that TMI? :tape2:
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taxed4ever
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Morning lovely ladies!! Brrrr, its cold outside today and frosty!! Hope my poor flowers don't get frostbitten!! Off to work and then to the grocery store, boy we would be rich if we didn't have to eat!!
Chris - You are the best mom ever!! And don't you ever forget it! You are always there when your kids need you and that's the most important thing!! Listen to Phylis, she is right, all you can do is love and support them along the way, they have to figure out all the other stuff on their own. :hug: to you my friend!!
LindaS - Glad you found a new daycare!! Sorry that your Uncle is not doing so good :sad: Hope your visits aren't to upsetting for you!
NanaLinda - You are up and at it early this morning! I hate grocery shopping also, I rarely use coupons, they are usually for things that I would never buy and I'm not about to buy them just to use the coupon!! Hope you find some good bargains, darn groceries cost too dam much!!! :rant: Ohh, Ohh don't get me started! :tape:
Hope your day goes great!!
Phylis - You and my sister should get together, her oldest daughter has pretty much disowned her parents and they really for the life of them can't figure out just what it was that they did? She was given everything, I mean everything!! growing up. Her mom and dad put her in all the best schools, bought her everything she wanted, but she turned into a spoiled little b...ch!! She even had a son and never even told her mother until the boy was two years old and she was introduced to him by the father. I just don't get it :noidea: but my poor sister suffered for a long time for this! Now her younger daughter has gotten married and has a baby girl and my sister concentrates on her. Enough of this rambling :ban: I know that as a Mother you did your best and you are right, our children are not ours to mold! I hope and pray that one day you and your daughter will be friends again!! It breaks my heart to think that you are sad!!
:hug:
Kristy - How awful that you had such a rough night! I sure hope you get over this terrible cold soon!! Take care of you!!
Well better get some breakfast and get this work day over with!! :wave:
Chris - You are the best mom ever!! And don't you ever forget it! You are always there when your kids need you and that's the most important thing!! Listen to Phylis, she is right, all you can do is love and support them along the way, they have to figure out all the other stuff on their own. :hug: to you my friend!!
LindaS - Glad you found a new daycare!! Sorry that your Uncle is not doing so good :sad: Hope your visits aren't to upsetting for you!
NanaLinda - You are up and at it early this morning! I hate grocery shopping also, I rarely use coupons, they are usually for things that I would never buy and I'm not about to buy them just to use the coupon!! Hope you find some good bargains, darn groceries cost too dam much!!! :rant: Ohh, Ohh don't get me started! :tape:
Hope your day goes great!!
Phylis - You and my sister should get together, her oldest daughter has pretty much disowned her parents and they really for the life of them can't figure out just what it was that they did? She was given everything, I mean everything!! growing up. Her mom and dad put her in all the best schools, bought her everything she wanted, but she turned into a spoiled little b...ch!! She even had a son and never even told her mother until the boy was two years old and she was introduced to him by the father. I just don't get it :noidea: but my poor sister suffered for a long time for this! Now her younger daughter has gotten married and has a baby girl and my sister concentrates on her. Enough of this rambling :ban: I know that as a Mother you did your best and you are right, our children are not ours to mold! I hope and pray that one day you and your daughter will be friends again!! It breaks my heart to think that you are sad!!
:hug:
Kristy - How awful that you had such a rough night! I sure hope you get over this terrible cold soon!! Take care of you!!
Well better get some breakfast and get this work day over with!! :wave:
Dumpty
back hOme and loving it
OK ... I lost a big message too .... :smash:
I'm going to try again
Linda - sorry to hear about your uncle, I'll think of him and you. Good luck with work too ... these things can be quite a burden ! (((hugs)))
Nana - how did the shopping go ? I must admit I'm helpless with coupons : lose lots of them because I don't check the expiration date enough ... (never happens with oscraps coupons though LOL )
Phylis - good thing you're getting better ... good luck with the house cleaning, if you want you can come over and help me out with mine too
LOL. Love what you wrote about kids and how we cannot do as much as we think we can ... not TMI at all, it was great of you to share ::grouphug I'm sorry about your daughter though ... maybe with time some things will mend ?
Kristi - take care ... ! hope you sleep better tonight.
Chris - well I could not say it better than phylis did so yeah : "what she said" ! If I may add my 2 cents though : perfect parents don't exist, eventhough some would like to believe they are it. Do not compare yourself to what you see from other families. What you see is only just that : what you see. (((hugs)))
Trudy - bwahaha love that concept ... we'd also be thin ... :biggrin:
it's already past 4:30 PM here ... I've got a monster headache, and am in a foul mood ... but appart from that everything is just fine sheep2 LOL
I'm going to try again
Linda - sorry to hear about your uncle, I'll think of him and you. Good luck with work too ... these things can be quite a burden ! (((hugs)))
Nana - how did the shopping go ? I must admit I'm helpless with coupons : lose lots of them because I don't check the expiration date enough ... (never happens with oscraps coupons though LOL )
Phylis - good thing you're getting better ... good luck with the house cleaning, if you want you can come over and help me out with mine too
LOL. Love what you wrote about kids and how we cannot do as much as we think we can ... not TMI at all, it was great of you to share ::grouphug I'm sorry about your daughter though ... maybe with time some things will mend ?Kristi - take care ... ! hope you sleep better tonight.
Chris - well I could not say it better than phylis did so yeah : "what she said" ! If I may add my 2 cents though : perfect parents don't exist, eventhough some would like to believe they are it. Do not compare yourself to what you see from other families. What you see is only just that : what you see. (((hugs)))
Trudy - bwahaha love that concept ... we'd also be thin ... :biggrin:
it's already past 4:30 PM here ... I've got a monster headache, and am in a foul mood ... but appart from that everything is just fine sheep2 LOL
Stef
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Now for personals -
Chris and Phylis - I am so sorry for what you ladies are going through. Forget fishing the wild Alaskan seas or climbing Mt Everest, IMO, being a parent is the scariest job out there. Now that my husband isn't here, I am doing it all alone and that is particularly terrifying. I suppose it does help knowing we aren't alone.
I wish I was better at couponing. Or saving money, in general. With 2 tiny kiddos and a full time job, there just isn't any time for that second job I usually need to make ends meet.
Do you guys worry about having money for college, etc for your kids? My parents had a savings account for each of us, but didn't tell us until we were in high school. Then, they made it a game, the more scholarships we got, the more of the money could go toward something else. I ended up with an academic full-ride, so I got to buy a car with it. Anyway...at this point, my kids have zip. And will probably have zip later on too. *sigh* Oh well. With the dismal income bracket we are currently inhabiting, they should qualify for lots of financial aid. I hope.
Chris and Phylis - I am so sorry for what you ladies are going through. Forget fishing the wild Alaskan seas or climbing Mt Everest, IMO, being a parent is the scariest job out there. Now that my husband isn't here, I am doing it all alone and that is particularly terrifying. I suppose it does help knowing we aren't alone.
I wish I was better at couponing. Or saving money, in general. With 2 tiny kiddos and a full time job, there just isn't any time for that second job I usually need to make ends meet.
Do you guys worry about having money for college, etc for your kids? My parents had a savings account for each of us, but didn't tell us until we were in high school. Then, they made it a game, the more scholarships we got, the more of the money could go toward something else. I ended up with an academic full-ride, so I got to buy a car with it. Anyway...at this point, my kids have zip. And will probably have zip later on too. *sigh* Oh well. With the dismal income bracket we are currently inhabiting, they should qualify for lots of financial aid. I hope.