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Daily Ooo's August 29/30: Weekend Edition

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Happy Saturday! We made it to the weekend.
Yesterday actually felt like a Saturday for me. One of my friends called me on her way home from work and I was so confused.
We were supposed to go to the lake with my mom but it got rained out. So all 4 of us were home all day, bumming around.

I am in a funk, sad, pissy mood. But I want to thank all of you so much for supporting me and helping me to keep my spirits up.
Its is so hard for me -- like a lot of you, I am a fixer. I want things to be good, if not great for my family. I tend to take it personally when I can't.

Yesterday was not a good day here and my two guys were both struggling. Scott's girlfriend broke up with him. Out of the blue. They are still friends, and I *know* at 13 this is the way it is supposed to be.
I am taking it much harder than he is, I think.

On top of it, his school called (yes, I had my usual conditioned response of Oh no! when I saw the number on the ID even though I knew he wasn't back in school yet!). He scored low on the Language section of the NJ ASK test and now has to be in a remedial Lang. class. I am trying to look at it positively, better now than when he is in HS.

I also think that is why the break-up bothers me so much. His GF is good in school and I was hoping that she would be a good influence on him.

OK, moms of older kids.... talk me down, please???

Man I am such a bummer to be around..... I am sorry.

Hope you all have a fab day!!!!
 
Hi girls..Saturday morning....had my coffee...fixed the guys some breakfast and sent the big on out the door to run an errand for me.

Ok...so I have decided to incorporate a couple of the ideas you girls threw at me....about S-DD and the cleaning problem. DH had a talk with her, and I guess it made her a little mad...she didn't stay here last night...which she usually does...because she has to be at work at 8:30 on Saturdays and it's an hour drive from her house. I am thinking she will be here tonight...so I am going down to clean up everything just like it should be to start a "CLEAN" slate....I will wash the sheets but I am going to fold them up and lay them on the bed....with her towels right beside them, instead of in the cabinet in the bathroom. She only gets two towels, two washcloths and one handtowel. I am going to write her a note and let her know that I am not her maid...she stays here too much for me to clean after her. I am going to spell out exactly what she needs to do and if she doesn't want to I am okay with that, but she needs to go back to just visiting and not staying here...after all, I do buy food for her to eat when she is here, toothpaste, shampoo, toilet paper, ect.....So it helps her out from having to buy as much at her house, because she isn't using hers when she stays here. If she chooses to not stay here, all of those things will be cut out from here, so when she does randomly decide to stay here, she needs to have ALL of her own stuff...there won't be anything here....GOSH that all sounds so mean...but...I have to get the point across....unfortunately, she wasn't taught very well from her mother. Her mom is a mooch and a slob....two of the major problems between DH and her when they were married. Of the three girls, the two younger girls have taken after their mother, but the oldest, the one who lives in TN...is OCD...her house is so clean you can eat off of the floors!!!! She has a problem and drives herself crazy about it. So there again...totally affected by Mom's bad habits!!!

You know...if it were my two girls...it would be easier...I would throw a "crazy mom" fit and they would be fine for a while....but I just can't be that way with her....she is not my child...when they were younger I would correct them and such, but usually got DH to do it...I felt there was a line for me not to cross.

Don't get me wrong...I have really good relationship with them all...they know they can call on me for whatever....and they do...with their problems, or just girl talk....I love them to death!! We go to the movies together (something my two never want to do). Out for a girls day just messing around...whatever....

Guess this is just one of those situations......~~~~sigh~~~~

Chris....(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
 
Good morning ladies. Not a lot on the plate this weekend. Need to make sure that I make my goal in post count. I'm close enough now that I don't have any worries. Now, I 'm not so sure that I'm going to get it done for the challenge thread...but I'm still going to try Linda W!

Oh that BF, GF thing. Well Chris, as you know, my kids are younger. But I do have 2 nieces and a nephew that are older. Hannah didn't have her first boyfriend until her sophmore year. He lasted about 8 weeks and broke up with her the day of a huge basketball game for her. She went about 4 months without a boyfriend. The next one has lasted 3 1/2 years. They are in college together now. Zeb (who is 16) goes through girls very quickly. I must admit, I like that approach much better. And they seem to end up as friends...so I think he's probably pretty cool! Sarah (age 14 1/2) is on her second boyfriend. And her first one is still a good friend who hangs out at the house often.
 
Linda W. you snuck in on me! Sounds like you have a good plan in place. I hope it works. I'm sure that it will be difficult! Hang in there and let us know if you need to vent!
 
i guess ya'll do this on saturdays. my boys are 4 right now so no gf worries yet. but they did just finish the first week of pre-k and i had a conference on the third day. apparently they would not stop talking during announcements, wrestle in lines and were launching themselves down the slide head first. :( so i am hoping the next week goes better and i have promised a trip to chucky cheese if it does. i am gonna have a lazy saturday since i drank last night. something i rarely do so i am tired.

about the step-dd i think ur approach is good. my mom never expected me to clean and my habits were not that great in my late teens. even if she does not like it she will see y you expect her help one day. sorry 4 all lowercase my 3 year old dd is on my lap.
 
Hi Lori...glad you are here....sounds like fun times for you with your 4 year olds and your 3 yo!! hoping next week is better for your little guys...they just have to have adjustment time!! Thanks for the support on my S-DD...she is 21...so it is a bit more challenging than a teen that you still can TELL them what they need to do!!

LindaS...Thanks for your support too dear!!! AWE..sweetie...you get as many challenges done as you can...you are still a WINNER!! and I am rooting for you on the posting goal!!

Chris...about the GF/BF thing....I don't have much advice there...simply because Sharon had the same boyfriend all through HS and into first year of college....so I WAS DEVISTATED much more than her when they broke up (she did the breaking up and poor fella still calls me to see how she is and if there might be a chance of them getting back together). And Traci
really never had boyfriends very much...If I go by my experience...You don't want them to have them for too long...YOU GET HURT TOO!!
 
Happy Sunday my lovely friends!

Well, I have survived the flu! Woohoo!!

Chris-bummer about Scott's gf, but at least they are still friends. It's hard watching our kids go through their relationship highs and lows. I just found out that my DS is and has been seeing the girl he wanted to marry when they were dating when he first got out of high school. This all went on while DH and I were separated so I don't know the whole story and neither does DH, DS is a very private person, very responsible, dependable, emotional...but very private...we don't know what happened but they stopped seeing each other and he started seeing other girls for a while then started staying home 'saving money' for several yrs. Now, suddenly, he's doing things with this girl, oddly enough her name is Amanda LOL, saying things like 'when she finishes college.....', making it sound like there's something big coming after college. So I finally told him last night that DH and I would like to take the 2 of them out to dinner one night...just a casual dinner...anywhere she would like to go...and I would be on my very best behavior and I promised not to embarrass him LOL. We've never even met her before!! I 'think' I saw her when they worked together at Dairy Queen, but I'm not sure. So, anyway, just wait Chris, it gets more interesting, LOL. I'm sorry you've already had school issues, I"m sure it willl all work out :).

LindaW-sounds like you've got a great plan in motion as far as S-DD! Let us know how it goes!!

Hi LindaS!! You can do the post goal!!!

Hi Lori, nice to 'meet' you!

big ((((hugs)))) everyone!!
 
Good morning my O-fam!
I am working on being in better spirits today. The whole "think positively" can be really difficult some days :)

We had a pretty nice day yesterday- we had my friends kids b-day party and omg- I just love those 2 little ones!!! I got some awesome (I hope) pictures of them with my kids. This is the couple who has been best buds with Gary since Middle school- Kim had just graduated HS when I first met her. Her kids are just amazing and sweet, and cuddly- Billy just turned 3 and asked if he could sit on my lap, then asked if I could help him go potty instead of his dad. LOL
Linda and Ona- I see why you love g-kids so much..... you get all of the snuggles and love and very little of the bull-pucky!
They love my kids too-- which keeps mine happy. Lena runs around asking for Caitlyn, "I neeeeeed Caitlyn" LOL

They wanted us to stay late (my goodness, we used to party with them all night-literally!! and now, *sighs*....) but we ended up leaving at 7 (how sad) -- we were all pretty wiped out and Gary hadn't slept the night before.

Today is up in the air. My parents invited us to the Parsippany Family Fireman's Picnic. My dad has been a volunteer there since my brother was born ;) Even at 70- he still drives the truck to fires :D
I guess we'll see how everyone is feeling if we want to make the trip down.
I am feeling the pressure of "last few days of summer, gotta get one last picnic in." Why do I do this to myself??:confused:
 
Personals!

BTW- if you go to my blog- I wrote an gratitude entry and my O-Fam is right up there!:D

Linda W- how did it go w/ S-DD? I hope that she understands your POV.

LindaS- thanks for the advice! I think it has a lot to do with friendship. The girl said that she valued his friendship too much to screw it up. That would normally raise a flag to me, except that her BFF got dumped the week before and it put a huge drama/play into the group of friends that hang with.

Lori- it must be so hard to have twins in a class room together. It will be really good for them when they get to Elem. School and are in separate classes. They have a huge comfort zone now by being together which makes them more likely to act "normal" than otherwise. When I was teaching PreK it was always a bit challenging when I had sibs together;)

Linda W- LOL!!! I guess I should be glad that I didn't meet his GF! He is so sweet tho- I asked Scott if I could hate her for a few days and he looked at me and said NO! We are still really good friends!!

Dawn- whew!! So glad that you are feeling better!! Yeah. Thanks for the warning that it gets more interesting....don't you think I have had enough of interesting yet?? LOLOL

Good luck to everyone w/ posting goals! 2 more days!
 
Helooooo ladies!

I know I've been MIA. I have sort of been skipping the Dailys and trying to focus on school stuff, family stuff, and....well...ok....the Twilight series. hee hee Facebook has been my main form of communication the last week or so.

I am headed to Kansas City today to the American Idol concert. We are going to do lunch, shop, dinner, concert and, unfortunately, drive home. We were supposed to stay in a hotel and take tomorrow off, but the gal I'm going with decided she didn't want to do that. At the last minute. I'm not thrilled about driving back at 1 or 2 in the morning, but I'm trying to let her off the hook a little. Now I just have to decide if I'm going to still call in "sick" on Monday. I could get some stuff done around the house if I did.... I'm just undecided.

Ok...On to personals!
 
Chris - So sorry things are difficult for you right now. And the relationship thing is hard for a 13 year old. But he's only 13, so maybe he'll have another good influence soon. When I was teaching jr. high, it was interesting to watch the relationships and how quickly things changed. That's just the nature of it at that age I think. It gets harder in high school. Those relationships are much more difficult to break away from. Hang in there!

Linda - I can infer the back story a bit from your post. That sounds like a really difficult situation. I hope she reacted ok. We really should take my SIL and send her your way...she sounds like she would fit right in with some of your more difficult family members.

Linda - Hope your calm weekend was enjoyable. Was the weather as cool there as it was here? I, personally, think it's absolutely lovely. I love the fall!

Lori - Hi there! The first week can always be so hard, for all the kids. I'm sure the boys will settle down soon. =)

Dear Dawn - I'm sorry to hear you had the flu. I hope you are feeling better. I gave up on trying to get hooked up with you on Facebook. When I "surfaced" for a few days, in order to help you find me, I got a couple of friend requests from people I REALLY didn't want to see. =) So I went back to stealth mode.
 
Sara...sounds like an AWESOME trip!! Have fun!! Bummer that the other girl wouldn't stay over night. And I must turn down your "kind" offer to send me you SIL....I have enough CRAZY in my life!!! There is NEVER a dull moment here!!

S-DD must be mad...she wasn't here again last night....guess DH's little talk with her last week angered her!! But they always come back!!!

Chris...you sound like me....That last week before Cameran started school, I wanted to get in as much as possible...felt like I was missing something so had to get it all in!! Sounds like a fabulous time with your friends...and yeah..you got it...about the grandma stuff....spoil, love, cuddle, send them home!!! Hope today brings you another good day!!


Dawn...Hey sweetie...I am so glad you are better!!! and don't worry about the goal..you will get it for Sept!! Sounds like DS has found his true love...maybe?....that would be great if you all get to go out together so you can meet her. I would have been trying to figure it all out before...my girls will tell you...private don't work for me!! Well, now it's okay..they are out of the house....I have always told them if they don't want me know...don't flaunt it around under my nose trying to be secretive...of course, being girls...they tell me everything!!! some things I don't want to know!!! Ok..we will get together by email later...
 
DH is headed to the country this afternoon, and I am staying here....I am going to finish my book and have some peace and quiet....and yes I want it that way!!!

Have a fab Sunday girls!!
 
Good morning ladies. Going to be a beautiful day here in Iowa so this is a quick drive-by from me. I think we are going to buy some mums today and get them planted for fall.

The kids are already fighting...how nice is that? Lori, mine are 15 months apart and I got a call their first day in pre-school. Unfortunately, they were fighting each other. One had a bloody nose and the other had scratch marks on his cheek. They got separated that day. :-) It's better now that they are in kdg and 1st grade.

Dawn, I can't wait to hear how your dinner goes. Love that you promised not to embarrass anyone.

Chris, so glad that you had a good time with friends. It sounds like it was relaxing...just what the doctor ordered!

I'll check back in later...hope everyone has a good day.
 
faerywings said:
Dawn- whew!! So glad that you are feeling better!! Yeah. Thanks for the warning that it gets more interesting....don't you think I have had enough of interesting yet?? LOLOL
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ROFL, good point!!!!! Well, let's hope it doesn't get toooo much more interesting ;).
 
petey111 said:
Dear Dawn - I'm sorry to hear you had the flu. I hope you are feeling better. I gave up on trying to get hooked up with you on Facebook. When I "surfaced" for a few days, in order to help you find me, I got a couple of friend requests from people I REALLY didn't want to see. =) So I went back to stealth mode.
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AWwwww man, I haven't had the time to get on there lately, things have been nuts, I'm not addicted like most people it seems! I never got into Myspace either LOL. It's kind of hit and miss with me...sometimes I get on for a wk straight and then sometimes it's a couple of months without LOL. I guess I'm too busy at the O to notice :).
 
hondachicc said:
Dawn...Hey sweetie...I am so glad you are better!!! and don't worry about the goal..you will get it for Sept!! Sounds like DS has found his true love...maybe?....that would be great if you all get to go out together so you can meet her. I would have been trying to figure it all out before...my girls will tell you...private don't work for me!! Well, now it's okay..they are out of the house....I have always told them if they don't want me know...don't flaunt it around under my nose trying to be secretive...of course, being girls...they tell me everything!!! some things I don't want to know!!! Ok..we will get together by email later...
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I did hit the gallery this morning and got in a few...who knows maybe I'll make it!

I admit, it has been driving me crazy all this time wanting to know more about this girl LOL, I try not to bug him too much though, he's a really good kid. Never in trouble, works hard, saves his money. He and I had some issues when he was younger and I was hard on him and now I realize that it was mostly me and not him :(. But it's mostly good now :).

I will catch up with you later in email!! Love ya sweetie!
 
hi, this thread is starting to get away with me. lol! So far I am liking the O and I think saying Hi kicked my mojo into gear. Seeing my scrap home go away kinda brought my creativity down but since introducing myself I have scrapped two pages. Please mojo dont go again!!

Thanks for everyones words on my boys and pre-k. I tried to have them seperate and they only offer two classrooms the other is for spanish speaking kids. So we will have to do with this arrangement. I do feel bad for my little guys they just dont want to go back on Monday and I never thouht they would react like that.

LindaW: Unfortunatley my appreciation for the adults in my life didnt quite kick in till I had my own kids to care for so it may be a long haul with your S-DD but its still best to stick by ur guns especially cause u have the younger ones watching.

Dawn: Good luck with the meeting. Sounds like she might not be that bad if your son has stuck with her that long. It also sounds like u trust his judgement. I wonder what she thinks about you and I bet she is nervous. I so hope it goes well for ya. Let us know!

Chris: I am glad u had fun last night. And I would be a hater on anyone that hurt my son. I am happy your son seems to be taking this ok. I dont even want to think aboiut the teen years. I will have three I tell you and sometimes I shudder thinking about it.

Ziggy-have fun at the concert!!
 
Good morning! So, today is a new day. I had a bit of an epiphany last night and not agreat one. As I was up late late last night I saw what I was doing. I was playing stupid stuff on the computer. Not stuff that serves any purpose at all. Not even games or something like that. So, I made some adjustments on FB and have decided that I need to make some changes. Of course I say this while I am on the computer. I just spend too much time on the computer doing stupid stuff leterally wasting nt just time but taking away my life moments forever. So, enough. I need to stop being obsessive. I can check my computer a couple times a day but the zillion or so times I check my computer while I am home with my family, or the hours I stay up at night so that I wake up tired and cranky is just ridiculous. So, enough is enough. I am working on 4 hours of sleep today. Brilliant of me I know. I get so frustrated with dh because he is never home wanting to be out fishing or whatever but I do the same thing at home. So, I have some new computer rules for myself...during the week I can play all day long at work and then when the kids are in bed. On the weekend I can check my computer first thing in the morning and then while the kids are sleeping. So, thanks for hearing my little rant about myself here. I'm sharing with you guys today to hold myself accountable. So, if you see me online when I shouldn't be hop onto FB IM and yell at me. Thanks guys.

So, let me leave some personals...

Chris - I am so sorry about your funk. It is so hard when you get stuck there. I find myself there more often than I would like myself. I hope your boys feel better soon. I don't know what to tell you about the gf issue. I hope Scott moves on and is able to get his school work together on his own. That is so cool that you got to have a g-ma moment, although of course only temporarily, since that time is far off for you. That totally makes sense why it would be so wonderful. I don't want my kids to grow up but when it is time to be a g-ma I think it will be so awesome to see these little people I growed up get to have their own families and have the opportunity to love another person in the way you only love with children. I think that sounds like an amazing experience. Of course I am not in any hurry, but I know when that day comes I will love it.

LindaW - Good luck with dsd. I hope your plan works out. It will be sad if she stops coming over as much but if it makes her mad that you and your husband won't tolerate her trashing your house maybe it will be a good thing for awhile. That is such a selfish age and if she can see it even a little bit you guys are doing pretty darn good. Big hugs. I hope that only good things come out of it. More than anything I am really happy to hear that dh supports you in this. My dh has always been a brat about that kind of thing (he's gotten much better). He would invite people to stay with us and then when I had issues with something he'd decide it was just my problem, not his. It has changed alot over the years, but for a long time that was a hiuge point of contention for us. Now that we have kids he understands that an unhappy wife/mom means an unhappy household. So he sees the need to back me up a little bit.

LindaS - I hope you get the challenge goal done. I wouldn't even know where to start on that.

Lori - Welcome to the Os!! Sounds like you have your hands full with y our boys. How funny that they are already causing trouble. I hope it all gets worked out though.

Dawn - I am so glad you are feeling better. The flu is not fun. That stinks that you won't make your posting goal. I'm sure you will make it next month.

Sara - We've missed you. I hope you enjoy your concert and I def think you should take your planned sick day.
 
Lori - I am glad you like it here. We all love it here too. Being involved definately helps with the mojo. Where were you hanging out before here?
 
I was on the site CT at {we are} storytellers. I am gonna miss it for sure. I really felt like my approach to scrapping and the sites concept went hand in hand. But its ok!!

Clara I totally hear u and the PC time. I do the same and I am trying to check it. It can be so hard. But u know I figure rather than check for comments every ten minutes if I wait maybe I can have 10 by the time I check. KWIM? I do stupid stuff too like hop around my fave unupdated blogs and not even posting to forums so its not like I am accomplishing anything. Its a hard habit to break especially when u are just at home. Hopefully the both of us can slim down our wasteful internet time.
 
Thanks Lori!! We'll have to work on cutting computer time together. that is sad for you that the site closed down. I hope you find a new home here, but if not here then somewhere. I would be soooooooo sad if the O dispersed. I am so glad nothing like that is in the works.

I am feeling so much better this afternoon. I was feeling very frustrated and discouraged this morning. But I worked my butt off and my room is gorgeous, I didn't hang out on the computer and worked together with dh. I am tired and ready for bed now. It was a good day.
 
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