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Daily O's: Thursday April 12

LSlycord

LSlycord

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While our fearless faery is catching a few extra winks, I thought I'd start the O's.

Can't believe that it is Thursday already! Wow....time is racing! Could someone slow it down just a bit. Sydney had her concert Monday night and they were so grown up. Mom always loved the kids concerts and they sang She'll Be Coming 'Round the Mountain and I've Been Working on the Railroad...songs that Mom sang to us when we were kids. Sydney wore a dress...oh my...and we stopped at my niece to have her put a braid in Sydney's hair. My niece said, "Grandma would have been so proud of you Lin for making sure that Syd got her hair done." (And she was exactly right...)

Last night, the check engine light came on in the minivan. Ugh....

I'll try to stop back in after soccer practice tonight. (And so the rat race continues.)
 
Hi there Linda :)
Racing, yep that's the new word for parenting LOL

I'm a bit down today :
I got a loooooong text message today from Hélène this mroning (right before she shut her phone off for school) explaining to me how bad a mom I am, how I give her insecurities and how eventhough I tell her time and time again how much I love her she is sure I don't...
that's quite a shock. I didn't see it coming. I caught her disobeying and lying (again) this morning and said how disappointed I was, but huh ... well I feel like it's a rather standard reaction on my part... oh well ....
I now have to plan some time alone with her for a looooooong talk, with tons of tissues for the both of us. The shitty thing being I have a late meeting tonight so it won't be today ... which would have been the right timing.

Work is its usual stressful self. Nothing new here.

We did have a great Easter week-end with my parents visiting, (and telling me how it's obvious that our kids are loved and happy. Go figure ! ). So I'll build up on that positive memory ... :)

xoxo
 
MOrning Linda- first day I have made it to the dailies this week. Hope your check engine light is nothing but the gas cap thing. I got my car back yesterday- yes the new one- when we were wheeling and dealing they told us about a special paint coating that helped the paint last longer- only $500- and we did not jump on it, but when we were checking out the financial guy said- oh and you are getting the paint deal- but did not add $$ to the price. Later my husband told me that one of the salesman threw it in for free cause he/we are great service users. So I set up the appt monday evening to have the car done tuesday- halfway through tuesday our salesman calls and asks how it is being paid for-my lovely response is- ummm someone threw it in. By the time it got figured out, it could not be done, but got done yesterday and it looks even more slick than before- just in time for crop planting which = dust! OH well. Lots of house work to do today, and my tooth is getting it's permanent crown and I get a teeth cleaning.

Have great days everyone
 
Linda! Hi sweetie! What awesome words to hear from your niece! Its such a wonderful connection to still have your mom there in spirit with you through songs and love. My kids and I get such a kick out of hearing my mom sing the same songs to Christopher that she sang to them. And my brother and I remember our Grandma singing some of them to us (there are a few that she used to sing that are so politically incorrect that we shouldn't even sing them as jokes LOL)

Spring break seems to be flying by here too. I am working the next 2 days but then we are off to PA for the weekend. Yay!

So I figured out yesterday why I have been so quiet. Gary made the mistake of asking me why I was so mopey and that I was miserable to be around. That made me mad, so I started yelling, and venting and then Mount Faery BLEW!!!!! A half an hour later I am crying and sobbing and sniffling and he is hugging me trying to make me fee better and to tell me to not stress so much. (ha!) He meant well. Point it that I am so damn good at holding stuff inside, that when it starts to overload, I shut down completely. Al it takes is one wrong word and BAM! It all comes out, every last bit of worry... its kinda ugly and pathetic. I was drained for the rest of the day, having a tantrum is *exhausting*!!!
:D

I am feeling a bit more emotionally stable ATM, but I have my Lyme dr appt this morning and I am scared at what she is going to say. This is my first time back since I have been off all abx- 6 months- and I can't say for sure if I am getting symptoms back or not, but it might be the start of them again.

Oh well, it is what it is!

Temptation on Thursday:
Run away!! Anyone with me??
 
I'm all for running away with you Chris ;) xoxo

(((hugs))) It's good sometimes to let it all out ... even if it's tiring at the time. Hope your appointment goes well and brings good news.
 
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) Marie. Oh boy, I am so there with you. Do you ever feel like you can't do anything right as a mom? I know that i do. But-- that fact that she is reaching out to you shows that she *wants* to talk and is trying to communicate. If she truly believed what she wrote, then she wouldn't have written it in the first place. When Cait had her melt down 2 weeks ago, it was really hard to hear all of the things she said, but I think it made us stronger for having cleared the air. Does that make sense? How old is Helene? Cait is 13, and it is such a hard age....

Laurie- what a mess at the car place! Glad it all got worked out! Have "fun" at the dentist!
 
faerywings said:
Temptation on Thursday:
Run away!! Anyone with me??
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Yes, ma'm! Where are we going? :paris ?
So - what shall we do in Paris? I'd love to see the Eiffel Tower obviously. And then spend HOURS at Louvre. Dinner at a nice restaurant ... any other ideas?
 
Hélène is 12 & 1/2 (will be 13 next september).... thanks so much for your words Chris ... you're right the fact that she wrote this does mean something positive which I was just not able to see ... Thanks tons, you've just made the end of my day a lot easier to go through !
 
tanteva said:
Yes, ma'm! Where are we going? :paris ?
So - what shall we do in Paris? I'd love to see the Eiffel Tower obviously. And then spend HOURS at Louvre. Dinner at a nice restaurant ... any other ideas?
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take the train/plane/whatever from Paris de Nice to go and visit Dumpty :biggrin:
 
Kristy- how is hubby today? Hope he is feeling better and that it doesn't start another round of sick in your house. Great job on all of the walking!!!
Happy birthday to your dad too!!!

Eva-- I'm with ya on that.

Good morning Donna! I also use couponcabin.com and retailmenot.com. I was able to find a 20% code for Cait's semi-formal dress at Kohls and I was so happy! :D

Oh Trudy- that is such a bummer you didn't get your day alone-ish.

Karen- hope that the dishes cleaned up easy for ya-- scrapping is just so much more fun!

Vicki- if I could head over, I 'd be the in a heartbeat, picking up the rest of the O_fam too. I know that Sally would be in!

Off for more coffee, anyone need a refill?
 
Dumpty said:
Hélène is 12 & 1/2 (will be 13 next september).... thanks so much for your words Chris ... you're right the fact that she wrote this does mean something positive which I was just not able to see ... Thanks tons, you've just made the end of my day a lot easier to go through !
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I am so glad! :hug:
 
Dumpty said:
take the train/plane/whatever from Paris de Nice to go and visit Dumpty :biggrin:
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Or you join us i Paris :)

Another positive thing that the text message shows is that she actually is that she is having some kind of security that you have a relationship that she can tell you this. It's a totally NORMAL reaction from a soon to be teenager. Tons of hormones are acting up in her body, and she has no way to control them. But the fact that she's reaching out for you, really shows that there are love and security there for her. When our kids are angry with us, and dare to "take the fight", the bottom line is that there is a strong foundation for love and sense of belonging. The hard part is for us not to take it personally, to see it as normal, and just continue to love them and listen to them and talk to them.
 
YES!!! ITA Eva, and I have to tell myself that over and over. Cait will lash out at me in a way she will not do to anyone else, and I think it is b/c she knows I am not going anywhere. She can say whatever she wants to me and I will still love her.
It totally bites being on the receiving end of it, but yes, I am 100% on the same page with Eva... it is a really good thing.

(really)
 
Morning sweet "O" friends!! The usual day for me today, ho hum boring!! :bored:

LindaS - Nice to see you here so early in the morning! How great that you got to feel your mom's spirit with you, such warm memories!! You must miss her so much!! :hug:

Laurie - Great that the car is even more flashy now!! Hopefully you will not be too long at the dentist and it goes well for you!

Marie - Eva and Chris said it all!! You are fortunate that your daughter feels comfortable enough to tell you everything!! Please don't take it personally, it is hard to hear those harsh words from someone you love so dearly!! My daughter used to lash out at me all the time when she was so sick many years ago, but I had to remember that she was feeling frustrated and trapped and she needed to vent, we now have the most wonderful relationship and can talk to each other about everything!! So nice! Hope your day ends well :hug:

Eva - So jealous that you are going to Paris, it must be a beautiful place to be in the spring!! I have the Louvre on my bucket list!! I'm with Chris, let grab some pastries and head on over to visit "D" after we pick you up in Paris!!

Off to get breakfast and gaze at the beauty in the gallery for a bit. Have a great one!! :wave:
 
Worst thing I've ever seen was when a mother was telling her kid insult after insult, and the kid just did not answer, the eyes were just dead ... like he's heard it a million times already, and knew there was no use in talk back. That was one kid that never would say anything against his mom ... he'd just get smacked.

(This was when I was a teenager, and I was so shocked I said nothing ... today, I'd probably smack the b*tch ... It's great being adult LOL)
 
Hi there everyone (it's friday here :) )
We had that long talk yesterday evening and it went very well ... we exchanged a lot on why DH and I do things and how she understands them, on how she should work on being more honnest so we can trust her more (like she wishes we would), on how talking and saying what's wrong is very important and of course on how we all love each other very much and believe that we do. So today is a better day ... until the next crisis ;)

thanks again a lot for your sound support yesterday !
xoxo
 
So happy to hear that D. It might feel like it fell on deaf ears at some point in the future, but you are creating the ability for the 2 of you to share and express yourselves as well as building trust.
Hugs and here is to a calm weekend!!!
 
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