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Daily Ooo's: Thursday, May 3

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The Loopy-O
CHEERY O
Its my darling hubby's birthday today!! He is 29, just like me :)

Not much planned, except my mom is bringing up his favorite meal for dinner- corned beef and cabbage. I am making him Irish Brownies for dessert- brownies with Bailey's flavored cream cheese frosting. And Scottish short breads for his gift. Such a nice Irish/Scots combo for sure. Give me garlic and pasta and crusty Italian bread for my b-day hahahah!!!

Sadly, my stomach is in *knots.* Caitlyn applied to Passaic County Technical Institute for High School, in their cosmetology program. The letters have gone out and her BFF got her acceptance yesterday. Still no news for her and it is killing both of us. It is so hard because I don't know what the criteria is. Her BFF applied for the Graphic Arts School and had to submit a portfolio. For Cosmo, there wasn't anything for her to do or submit. Her grades are good- all A, B and 2-3 C's over the course of the last 8 years. Teachers seem to love her. I just want an answer!!! :faint:
I don't know, I feel like a bad mom b/c I am not telling her "I am sure you'll get in." I am telling her that if she doesn't get in she will have other opportunities, that this is only one path of many. But shouldn't I be more positive?? I tend to be so practical-minded I forget that not everyone is. Maybe she needs more encouragement.
I feel like I suck, sometimes.

Anyway- I old her to see if her guidance counselor has any news, and I'll check the mail and we'll text each other if we hear.
I am off to work, so that is perfect- it will keep me busy!

Ugh- I feel like such a downer all of the time. And to think, her issues are the good ones...... Scott is in danger of failing **three** classes!!!! CRAP!!!!!!!!!! The more I talk to him, the more he shuts down and the less he does as a way to assert himself. I cannot get through to him. So I decided to step back. If he fails, so be it. He is the one to deal with it. Why is that so hard to do??

Oh double crap, I am so last..... gotta get ready for my day.
But I don't want tooooooooooooooo!

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Love and light and peace to all of you. I am hoping I can find a smidge of it for myself!
 
Morning O fam
Morning Chris- I think I would do the same thing you did- it is reality- she might get in, she might not- and you are supporting her either way- We do that with anything that is out of our control- you don't always get what you want, what you feel you have earned- that's life and yes a better/different opportunity arrives if you don't get accepted.
 
Happy Birthday Mr. Chris!
Didn't know you were 2 years older than me ;)

I'm a bit sad right now - just finished the last episode of 90210. What to do with the rest of my life? ;)
 
Chris, I think that you did exactly the right thing. To be supportive no matter what comes...that's the key! And that's what you are doing. I hope you get a good text message today!

Laurie, how are those morning walks on the beach? I really feel like I could use some beach time right now.

Eva, you crack me up!!!

For the readers in the group, I finished the book "At the Corner of Bitter and Sweet". I LOVED it...and would highly recommend it.
 
now my e-mail isn't working *annoyed*
We're off to a meeting with DS's school today. Makes me nervous every time, but this time in particular since the little brat isn't doing his school work. We're trying EVERYTHING, and he just can't get a grip on things. Now meeting the school - trying to convince them that him doing school from home is the best ... when he's not doing anything?!?! Yeah - I'm really really looking forward to this. I'm coming home tonight dead tired and sad - that's for sure!

What do you do when nothing works? Not threats, not bribes, not arguments - nothing. Someone should have warned you about this when you decided to start have sex LOL
 
Oh Eva........... :(
I swear, we are in the same boat with Scott. We just don't know what else to do. We have tried grounding him/making him have an planner/assignments to be signed/yelled/taken away privileges/ignored it all/talked calmly. It doesn't seem to make a difference. I even tried to make a joke this morning about having an imaginary frog help him to remember his HW and I got told that I was stressing him out.
Wish I knew how to help, both him and you.
Good luck with your meeting. If your school has any good advice, can you let me know??? :D

Linda S- I just added that to my Goodreads list!

Laurie- wish I walking the beach with you :)
 
Bus stop #1 done, brownies in oven, gave MMG a happy birthday kiss. And darn it, he woke up early today. Usually he gets up around the time I leave for work but this morning he sugar was 43 and it was 6:30 am. I wanted to see if I had any happy birthday banner or streamers in the attic that I could decorate for when he woke up but he went and ruined it with low sugar.

I have a couple of minutes now that I am not going in the attic before my neighbor's son comes over and I do Bus Run #2.
Soooo with no further ado.....

Personals from yesterday:)

Oh Trudy- I am so sorry, the waiting phone that phone to ring must be horrible beyond belief.
Doesn't hindsight stink sometimes??? But what is the connection between dance and your DD getting sick, if you don't mind me asking?

I have a col psychic story from when I was pg. with Cait. I was at an ice cream stand with Gary and Scott and this man came up to me and said that the baby was a girl and it was going to be ok even though things were going to get rocky in the near future. (paraphrasing). The weird thing was that he only saw me from behind and I was only 6 months and with my baggy sweatshirt, I didn't look pg. But wouldn't you know, a couple of weeks laster I was in the hospital with pre-term labor. Luckily the drs were able to hold me off until I was 38 weeks and as you know, I had a girl.
His words really helped me when they thought they couldn't stop my labor and I was only 33 weeks at the time.

Phyllis- how old is your DD now? Does she have kids of her own yet? Maybe if and when she does, her perspective will change. I know that my respect for my mom changed immensely after I had kids.
I have been listening to what you have been saying about the lessening of influence we have over our kids as they get older and hopefully more mature. I am trying to keep that in mind, because to read any parenting articles these days, I swear, it makes you feel that one wrong word and your kid will be scarred for life!

Maureen- tell us more about the intuitive! They are psychic but more in a healing realm, IIRC?
Bet you are looking fwd to your beach trip too!
Its "funny" -- the client I clean for has to adopted boys , one from as a baby, the other was from Russia. I know that they really struggle with the boy who was adopted as a child, not baby. Its so hard to say what the issues could be-- nature/nurture/personality/planet alignment!!
I hope that you find peace with that relationship.

Phyllis-- ouch!!!!!! Women truly are amazing,. Could you imagine a man going through childbirth?? ha!

Nana- the short story on my ankle...its from the Lyme/auto-immune crap. Slightly longer story is that I have a tendon nodule that means my ankle tendon is swollen and inflamed. The abx I started 2 weeks ago might or might not help since Bartonella tends to attack the feet/ankles and my heels have been hurting more since I started them.
I am probably not supposed to be on my feet, but a girl has to work right? I have anti-inflammatory cream/pain med to put on it but its not helping.

yay for sunshine!!! We have been cold and rainy the last several days. Good for the water table, but not my joints LOL
I bet you miss Miss S but maybe you can take her on oaccasion when she wants to play hooky from day care.
Poor you and Mike-- sending hugs and anti-clumsy vibes to you both!

Time for the boy to head over......
xoxo!!!
 
hm......parenthood seems to be the issue today. there are absolutely days when i agree with Eva: somebody should have TOLD us what having kids was really like BEFORE we jumped into parenhood. my life with my kids has been so ass-backwards. i never had ANY probs with them. then they turned 25-6 and all hell started breaking loose. my daughter is going to be 26 in a few weeks. i have no idea what she plans to accomplish with her present course of behavior, and frankly, i have no control over it. THAT is the hard thing to get used to. and, Chris, if she has kids with the guy she's seeing now, her life is going to be a freaking mess, forever. so i doubt she'll have time to alter her feelings about me. i have no idea what to do about kids who won't do their homework. i never had that problem. but i think i do know this about parenting and life in general: consequences are the best teachers. let happen to them what logically WILL happen to them, try not to keep jumping in and "rescuing" them, then let life be the teacher. be as supportive as you can, but let them feel what they've done. TELL them that that's what you're doing, then step aside and try to get yourself as emotionally removed from the situation as you can. (this is re: your son's not doing his work, etc.) THAT is the hard part. oh, and DON'T let your kids live with you forever. encourage them to go out there and make a life ASAP. and, Chris. believe me. NOBODY has it right as a parent. kids are a whole lot more resilient than we give them (or ourselves) credit for. and in the end, as they grow up, they are THEIR OWN person. THEY are in charge of what they will become, not you. and we have to accept the fact, i think, that at times we will, for the rest of our lives,maybe have to watch at least one of our kids make a bleeding mess out of the whole business.

so. the endings are not always happy, and there's not a thing we can do about it. cheery thought, eh? my motto lately has been "SAVE YOURSELF!!" :hurt: cast off emotionally and try to be healthy and happy. that's sometimes all you can do, i think.

sorry for the "lecture." i know none of this seems helpful when you're right at the worst part of the story. and what makes ME the person to be trying to give advice to ANYONE?? honestly, parenting (particularly motherhood) is heartbreaking and thankless a lot of the time. as the kids get older, the big job for parents seems to be letting go and allowing reality to take its course--while trying to be as happy a person as possible yourself.

sigh. Thursday. what a weird day. it's neither here nor there. it might rain, it might not. seems like a good day for running errands and laundry.

courage, moms!
 
Laurie, you sound like you're like me: The Reality Fairy. i have a pin i bought once of a snarky looking fairy. the card it was attached to said: This is The Reality Fairy. She might not grant your wish. she might not even acknowledge that you MADE one."
 
Happy birthday to your DH chris!! hope he has a great day!! Hope Caitlyn gets in!!
and you are totally not a bad mom for telling her those things...these are things she
needs to hear!
Hope that he doesn't fail...but if he does maybe he'll realize he needs to step it up a bit!
there isn't much else you can do...


LOL Eva!! the new 90210 is finally done with? I dunno I never watched it....I really didnt
watch the old ones either....and good luck at the meeting!

ohh thanks for the book reccomendation...I'll have to check that out! I got a few on my Kindle
that I am still reading, but I am always on the lookout for new ones LOL



Phylis you are right parenting is HARD!!! its just doing what you think is right and best for your kids
and yourself and hoping that everything turns out okay...there is only so much you can do for them
until they got to do for themselves...and i dont think the way kids turn out is solely based on how
they were raised there are other factors....ones that you cannot control...like influence of their
friends/boyfriends/girlfriends...that one can be a tough one....and there isn't a darn thing you can
do about it...you just hope for the best



anyways doing okay here....still keeping up with my exercise and better eating habits...
gonna head out for a 5mile walk in about an hour or so....dh is home today so he'll keep helena
with him...then when i come home i gotta get cleaned up and take him to his drs appt for a repeat
injection into his back...the last one seemed to help a little for his right side...but now he says
his left side is hurting real bad and he says it feels like his hip is pulling out of its socket!
yikes

last night i had a meeting with elyse's teacher and a few other people at the school...i wanted to bring
my concerns about her possibly having dyslexia to them...they were pretty receptive to everything i had to
say...which is good...she is in this program now called "title 1" where they basically have tutoring for those
kids who need a little bit extra help...she was in it for math and reading...she "graduated" from the math portion
of that...and is pretty much spot on where everyone else is now with that...its just the reading still
and i wanted to talk to them about that...cause this "title1" ends pretty much in 3rd grade...and so i wanted to make
sure that when she goes to 4th grade that if she still needs the extra help she will get it.

we will possibly be getting her into summer school...which will hopefully help her out come the begining of the school
year...i hope she is like me cause i too struggled as a kid...but then i blossomed and became a good reader/writer
as i got older so i am really hoping that she is the same way that she just needs some time to i guess reprogram
her brain to see and read the words like they should be...i know i still have those moments where i am reading things
backwards or something and if things dont improve i am gonna DEMAND she be tested....there will be no ifs ands or butts
about it!
 
Morning sweet O ladies... OMG I am so late this morning that I will have to stop in here later to catch up on all the personals!! Sounds like a great day of venting about parenting!! I really want to stay and put in my two cents, but dam work is calling and I have yet to even get dressed. Gotta :bolt: and will talk to all of you later! Hope you all have a pleasant day!! :wave:
 
Ahhh last full day at the beach- we will take 2 days to drive home- that means one more beach walk morning, one more swimsuit first day- and then next week, sadly work- why do I have bills to pay??
 
Hi there peeps..

Happy Birthday Mr. Chris - the male loopy faery. (better run now right?!?!?) Hope he can get a laugh outa that one!

Chris "They are psychic but more in a healing realm, IIRC?" You're right. More spiritual and on a soul level. No blame. It really helped me understand the anger and frustration my daughter felt being, and I do mean literally, in a crib for most of her first 3 years.

Two separate psychiatrists, with no knowledge of each other's opinion, 15+ years apart, diagnosed her as borderline. Not knowing how to relate as a Human Being. Feeling as if you are in a cage and there is no way out even though to an outsider, the problems and issues are self inflicted. A hospital or jail is where my daughter feels safest on a deep level because that is what the unconscious knows best. It sucks but it's safe.

The intuitive without any of this medical info etc pretty much described my daughter to a T. But more of the discussion was about the loss we both feel on a soul level because WE missed those first 3 years. We both have something to grieve. I know I've felt that I am grieving since she was diagnosed with the cancer but this clarifies it more for me.

Parenting IS hard no matter who or what the child or family. I think that's why sex was created because if there wasn't this extreme pleasure involved no children would be born. And which of us didn't think we would do it soooo much better than our parents, friends etc? Oh the innocent arrogance of youth!

btw I saw my energy work friend today and she says that it was super wacky at the hospital yesterday. Another friend who works in a drug treatment facility said the same. I suspect the planets are messin' with us. I read that the full moon Saturday is supposed to be one of the biggest. Higher and lower tides are expected but no earthquakes. Glad to hear that last bit! of course I never thought of it so it just gave me something to have a niggly worry about. LOL

Other than parenting, and health issues, have a great rest-of-your-day!
 
Kiliki said:
LOL Eva!! the new 90210 is finally done with? I dunno I never watched it....I really didnt
watch the old ones either....and good luck at the meeting!
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It was the old one I saw the last episode of today - bought the entire collection a while back ago, and been "binge watching" it.



I need to make a page 2 for this one, with some journaling about the show!

Oh - and guess what? I ordered the first season of the new 90210 show ... I really need to see what they done. It's been on TV here in Sweden, but I didn't see it.

Meeting with school went ok. We'll see how much it will effect John's school work. But at least the school have some ideas for "back-up plans" if things don't go well. John has promised to work his butt of during the rest of this semester and during the summer. :typing:
 
Hi again ladies... I know I said that I would catch up with personals this afternoon, but man my butt is dragging this afternoon
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and I am just going to leave personals until tomorrow. :sorry: hope you all forgive me!
 
lol nice you sound like me with Dawsons Creek i got those on netflix and was watching straight from the beginning haha i felt like such a dork but i missed watching the show so i needed a nice blast from the past haha
 
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