Daily Ooo's: January 18-19, Weekend Edition

[faerywings]

Happy Saturday! It is another cold and snow-showery morning here in Faery-Land. No accumulations, just dusting so far. But I have coffee and a blanket and am all cozied up.

No Celebratory Coffee for me yesterday. It turns out that it was cancer- ductal carcinoma in-situ. It is Stage 0- meaning completely contained. Now I need to find a surgeon to get it removed and figure out further treatment, if needed. I have to admit, I was not surprised. I had a feeling that the dr knew when I went for my magnification mammo right before Christmas. It was handled differently than the last time I had a biopsy there. It just had a different vibe...
But the good news is that it is very early in the game, hasn't spread anywhere else and is easily treatable.

Honestly, I am not sure how I feel about the news either. Everyone around me seems to be taking it harder than I am. I am not sure if I really believe that its no big deal- no different than a hangnail, or if it is just my defense mechanisms kicking in. Minimizing it all, making jokes, shrugging it off (stressing about not being able to work!! LOL). Who knows? I have already been through so much, what is one more thing, eh?

All I can say is thank goodness I got the health insurance plan that I did. I have a $750 deductible (I am sure that I hit that the first min of the biopsy, maybe even before I got on the table), and a $1250 maximum out of pocket for the year. If I haven't hit that yet, I will very soon, so the rest of the year will be $0 out of pocket. I am still hoping to get a PICC line covered, but that has to get done before beach/swimming season

The other thing that I have learned is that it is totally OK to say "I don't know what to say except that I love you" when you hear bad news. I always felt bad when I said that to other people, like it wasn't "enough." But when I told my 2 BFF's the news, that is what they said to me, and it really is enough.

My parents are coming up for b-fast today. My mom wanted to come up yesterday afternoon which I knew was not good for either of us. That would have been a nightmare!!!! :hurt:
Other than that, I need to catch up on some housework.

Hope you have a more (less???) exciting day than me.

hugs!!!

 

[whatnext]

Chris. damn. and 9,000,000 hugs from me to you. i can tell you a true and optimistic story, though. my older sister had exactly the same kind of cancer. she had surgery, radiation (and she told them she wanted chemo, too.) that was over 15 years ago. no sign of anything recurring. the Stage 0 and in-situ are both VERY good pieces of news. so go get it, girl. then be done with it. tell me what i can do for you. if you would like to email my sister, i'll ask her and get you her email address. my SIL also had BC, and she's always ready and willing to talk about it with anyone who needs to. so, there are two people with experience and success for you to use or not as resources as you go through this. and 9,000,000 more hugs to you.

 

[LaurieW]

Aww Chris- not the news you wanted. Gentle hugs. On my good news front- I am having my first cup of coffee in 3 days, I am considering asking my country neighbor to go shopping for me, and I am hoping to stay vertical for more than 30 minutes today. I have begun to experience continual pain in my right hip- thinking bursitis from laying on the couch all day. Still coughing but fever is gone. We are not going to the wedding, which makes me sad as I wanted to see family. Oh well. I would not want any of them to feel like this. Imagine if I did not have the flu shot, I would be in the hospital right now, so at least I do not have an open in the back gown! Okay, pity party over.

Anyone doing anything exciting this weekend?

 

[faerywings]

thank you Phyllis, I will keep your offer in mind if I need more info!! My mom's friend had the exact same thing too and she spoke to my mom and I think reassured her quite a bit. I guess as I move fwd I will need more support.

And thank you both for the hugs! Y'all know I love hugs ::grouphug

Laurie please rest as much as you can, and I am really glad that you got a flu shot, I can't imagine how much worse you would be feeling.

xoxo!!

 

[Heather Prins]

Hugs to you Chris!! Boobs can be more trouble than they're worth!

 

[beszteri]

Hugs to you, Chris!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[taxed4ever]

Morning sweet O friends!!
Ohhhhh Chris, this is not the news you were hoping for, but always look at the bright side and be thankful that it was caught so early and is easily treatable!! Now get out there and kick that Cancer's Ass!!!

If anyone can do it, we know you can!!! I know that you will have lots of support from your great family and circle of friends and know that all of us here are sending you all the good vibes we can!! Oh and thousands of hugs too!!

If you ever need someone to talk to, please let me know even if its only by PM here

its better than nothing and I would so love to help you in anyway that I can!!

Phylis - Wow your sisters are an inspiration! How wonderful that they have both beaten the beast!! Now you and I will take on the job of caring for our dear Faery Friend, after all she needs to have two (Ahem) older ladies to worry about her right?

Laurie - Glad that you seem to be getting a bit better! Darn that old flu bug is a bad one this year!! It really is a good thing that you got that shot or you would most definitely be in a hospital bed! Ugghhh!! Take care of you! :hug:

Well DH and I are off to do some errands downtown and then pick up some groceries. I have to find a small gift for my great niece Isabella, she is turning 2 tomorrow and her grandma, my sister Pam, is throwing a small party for her. Hope that you all have a wonderful Saturday and send Chris all the healing thoughts that you can muster up!! :wave:

 

[taxed4ever]

:wave: Hi Heather and Eszter, so nice to see your pretty faces here!!

 

[Andrea C.]

Chris - Sorry it wasn't the news you wanted but so glad it's at a very early stage and can be contained! Huge HUGS to you!! You know your O buddies are here if you need anything at all! You and I get to be PICC line buddies eh? I think I'm going to get mine taken out before summer and beach trips and get another put in after summer is done. I really am not a fan of having one but you do what you gotta do in life! Hope you get your surgeon lined up soon!!

 

[LaurieW]

I have been upright for 4 hours- mostly sitting in my computer chair, or putzing through errands. Neighbors dropped off soup and lunch meat and will get groceries tomorrow. Now we have to figure out why our heat is not working- ughhh.

 

[Andrea C.]

Boooo for no heat Laurie and glad you've been upright! Brent had the flu early in the week but luckily he got Tamiflu thanks to his super smart girlfriend, I think she might have made some life threats in there, and he was only out of work for two days! I told him he had to be without a fever for 24 hours before he could go back or he would have went back after one day. That med was a lifesaver for him! I've got the crud again myself and not real happy about it! I had gotten over it right before he got the flu and then worked Tues and Thurs and by Thursday night I was miserable again, not to mention that my knee was in severe pain after Thursday Stinks but what can ya do?! I really hope this bursitis goes away soon because I can't deal with that kind of pain for too many days at work. It's tolerable when I'm home.

Anywho....look at me getting all wordy....hope your crud continues to improve and so glad someone brought you lunch

 

[Traumelfe]

Hugs to you, Chris!!!

 

[marnie333]

Hi Chris,
Bummer about the diagnosis. Good to hear it is contained and easily treatable, yet it is a little bigger thing than a hangnail! I hope a little of my story will be encouraging. I was diagnosed with breast cancer that had metastasized into one lymph node at the age of 31. This year I am celebrating 30 years cancer free! Hallelujah! Please know you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs, Marnie

 

[janedee]

Hugs Chris! Definitely not the diagnosis you'd hoped for but so glad to hear its Stage 0 and easily treatable.

 

[ViVre]

Big BIG hugs to you Chris. Thinking of you and praying. Please stay strong!

 

[veer]

Big hugs to you Chris, stay positive and we will be here for you !!!!

 

[Adryane]

sending you lots of ((((hugs)))), Chris.

 

[LaurieW]

Morning O fam- so the plus side of missing the wedding because of the flu- you are home when your furnace quits working and you do not come home to frozen pipes. The down side- you are stuck in a colder than normal house. The repairman came, he showed my husband how to try to keep it running (I can't wait for him to get up and see if it will work- otherwise we are going to have to turn on the electric heaters which equals flying $$ out the windows) A part is ordered for my husband to pick up on Monday and the repairman will come fix it then. So excited that my neighbors will bring me groceries today- fruit and yogurt! Off to find my slippers.....

 

[faerywings]

OMG, I am so touched by all of your hugs and support! It means the world to me, truly. I am sure I will be asking for more good thoughts in the future, so I hope you don't get sick of that.

I gotta brag yet again about how awesome my family is, even though they are insane. My parents came up yesterday morning for breakfast. I had hoped that today would be a better day for that, but Scott and Leah wouldn't be here and I kind of wanted the kids as buffers. At noon, I get a call from my brother, He is on his way up as well.
My mom was already asking what foods I want her to start cooking. My brother is asking if I need money for pizzas. I had to tell them to stop! I don't even have a dr picked out, I will not need more food for a while. We still haven't finished everything that they cooked from last week.

And my SIL-- she and my godson couldn't come up, he still is sick. But she had asked me when I was on the phone with her earlier, what I needed. I said nothing right now, but I'll take chocolate after the surgery. I said that wine, chocolate and coffee will make everything better. So she sent up a bag of coffee, 2 bottles of wine and three bags of chocolates. Flowers from Christopher.

So in spite of them making me want to tear my hair out some times, I treasure them so much. My friend from across the street saw their cars out front and texted me to ask if I was ok or if I was drowning in family help. Too funny!

Today I am going to get that housework done I didn't get to yesterday and will be meeting my friend for that coffee we didn't get to have on Friday. And a nap! I neeeeed a nap!

xoxoxoxo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[LaurieW]

Chris- how great that you have such a supportive family. Keeping you in my prayers.

 

[faerywings]

Hi Phyllis! Hope you had a good day!

Laurie- I am sorry that you missed the wedding. Hoping that you are feeling tons better every day! I was just reading an article that made me think of you. It was about how "industry" chickens are now getting Tamiflu with the other abx, which might have lessened the effectiveness of the vaccine. Not sure if there is any evidence of that or if it is even possible, but its weird how so many people who got the vaccine are still so sick. More hugs and soup!

Heather and Ester-- hugs back!!!

Trudy, to be honest, I think i will have a much easier time and more success at kicking cancer than I have been so far with Lyme. But I am willing to go the distance on both.
Me~>

kicking ass

Thank you for your support and love, as always!
How was your g-nieces birthday party? Or was that today? Have fun!

Andrea- PICC line buddies! I am hoping so. My idea is that if I can get a PICC line and rocephin for at least 3-6 months, I can really knock this lyme outta me. My lyme dr has wanted me on one for years. I actually had one scheduled to be inserted a year or so ago and the night before the procedure, my insurance pulled the approval :rant:
Hope you are feeling better too. Sending soup for you too! ~~~~~~

Laurie- stay warm!!!!!

Kerstin, thank you!!!

Marnie-- I love the success stories! Congrats on 30 years!!!! woot!!!

Jane, Vivre, Vera, and Adryane-- thank you all so much too!

Laurie- glad that you were able to see the "up side" of no frozen pipes. I hope it all gets fixes asap! That polar vortex is back again too. yuck!


Love you all!!

 

[LaurieW]

Ahh $$ flying out the windows till tomorrow when we hopefully will get it fixed. I am heading to the basement- we have a propane fireplace heating the basement. Guess I am now going to be well enough to work down there sorting stuffs. This is so not how I imagined this week going.

 

[taxed4ever]

Morning ladies, wow how wonderful are all of you ladies!!! Chris you are blessed with so many great on line friends and family!!

Chris - Your real life family is so awesome!! Sounds like you will never be without food in your house LOL!! Enjoy your wine, coffee and chocolate!! I ended up throwing out a bunch of the wonderful chocolates I got at Christmas :sad: but I would have just kept eating it all and gaining even more weight!!

Now I have this vision in my head of you as sponge bob, kicking the crap out of all those bad bugs out there! Go get em girl!! :boxing:

Laurie - Cheezzzz what else is going to happen to you and your house?? I am glad that you are feeling better, but oh my one more thing to have to fix!! Bet you never thought you would have to deal with this!!! :hug: I hope your power bill isn't too crazy after having to plug in electric heaters!! Now keep your fingers crossed that the power does not go out!!

Well I hate to tell you all this, but the big screen t.v. won out!! So no nice warm holiday for us this year

oh well its his birthday, guess he will have to take me on a pretty nice trip somewhere when I turn 60!!!! It is a very nice t.v. though and we enjoyed a movie and nice night together last night! Ok I have lots of :washing: to do today and then off to my nieces birthday party this afternoon! Have a great Sunday everyone! :wave:

 

[whatnext]

Chris, your fam sounds amazing! and when all is said and done, that means EVERYTHING in tough times. so glad to think of all those people surrounding you in a circle of crazy love.

Laurie, what a time to have your furnace go Kah-Put!! have you seen the temps for next week?? eeeek!!! well, good luck with the electric heaters. this can't be helping your flu, either. bundle up! drink warm liquids! (or red room-temp ones in glasses with long stems! :rofl

Andrea, hope your knee is feeling better. bursitis bites.

Trudy

after all she needs to have two (Ahem) older ladies to worry about her right?

yep. BRING ON THE GRAMMAS! :becky: and, yeah. i still see the wiggly lines if i look at the computer screen for too long. woot. NOT one of the joys of being Gramma Aged!

today is just another medium-snowy mess of a day here. Hubby's out shoveling the driveway. again. i was going to go to the grocery store, but Sunday is Men With Shopping Carts Day, usually, and i can't take it. why don't they all stay home and watch football games or something?? :rant: so i'll go tomorrow at some weird time when no one will be there. Hubby and i are working together to make (me) and mount on the wall (him) an upholstered headboard today. i can't do my part until he does his part, and he's progressing at a snail's pace, so it's not clear whether i'll get my part done or even STARTED today.:frusty: hwell:

Hi, ANNA TEAM LADIES!! :wave:

hope your Sunday is peaceful. see ya tomorrow! :becky:

 

[Romy]

just popped to see how are my friends at the O doing to read this! Chris, you've been through so many things already...sigh...but your attitude is the right one, I'm sure you'll get through this, and stronger.

 

[sandracvrt]

good afternoon! Just getting a chance to check in... meeting with the attorney went okay on Friday... he's taking the case and I didn't leave again thinking he's a total ass which he is... his paralegal said she can see our personalities are a lot alike so she's basically going to be the go between so there's less of a chance for us to butt heads LOL. He's already putting in the works having the child support re-evaluated and now that I'm seeing the psychologist he recommended is going to try to get the order for the psych evals vacated since I really don't have the funds to pay for it. So it went better and smoother than I expected... I meet again with the psychologist on Tuesday and I have an appt on the SSRI Wednesday. My attorney thinks that will go a long way in getting the psych evals vacated. Plus he has dealt with our judge and said my psychologist's opinion is highly valued and respected.

Chris - I am so sorry about the diagnosis, but glad to hear that it was caught so early... it brought tears to my eyes because you already go through so much. :hug: love you!

hope everyone is having a great weekend! I'm personally looking forward to an extra day off tomorrow!

 

[whatnext]

Trudy! BOOOOO!! the TV won!! i hope you're planning your BD trip already!

 

[faerywings]

Hi Romy!!


Thank you everyone -- I have a crazy IRL life, and a crazy O-Fam-- its so awesome!

 

[tropt]

Just popped in after being offline for a bit (and then sick before that) and saw this thread and had to drop a short note.

Hugs, hugs, hugs to you, Chris!!! Sending tons of prayers and positive thoughts your way. ::grouphug